The he and I are on a mission to complete some of those things we dreamed we would do in our retirement. One of them is to travel to a far away place with specific accommodations. We have been dreaming of this for about 10 years now. I approached a travel agent and told her our situation and asked her to put some prices together. I gave her lots of latitude. We don’t care which location we go as long as the accommodations are what we want. In fact, I said “water is the same all over this region so we don’t care where”. We also told her the travel dates could be anytime after October, holidays included and the length of stay was open as well. I had done some preliminary searches on travel sites so I had an idea of what to expect, we just needed someone to narrow it down to a few places as we are overwhelmed with everything and don’t want to have to think about this or make a ton of decisions. That’s why they have travel agents right?

Last night I received an email from someone at the travel agency that does a lot of these types of trips but mostly honeymoon packages. This agent asked me to study up on the different destinations to let them know where we want to go and provide the dates we want to travel.

So, here’s the thing. If I study up on the different locations and figure out dates I might as well get on Travelocity or Expedia and book the trip myself. Whisky Tango Foxtrot!

This is where the Teaching Time begins.

In situations like we are in, making decisions is hard. Hell, focusing on the day to day things seems impossible some days. For us, we are doing great if we get up and get to work and school and stay there all day. It’s a total win for our family if we can get dinner made and the dog gets fed.

We are so overwhelmed. Under normal circumstances juggling careers, home life, extracurricular activities for the kids, staying in touch with family & friends and making time for your beloved is hard. Now, throw in a terminal illness. It’s so much more than “my husband is sick”. You may not see it because you don’t see us every day, but every day we see and live the terminal illness.

So statements like, “Let me know what you need” or in the case of the travel agent asking us to make most of the decisions, makes us look at each other like WTH! We will most likely tell you nothing, mainly because we just can’t think of exactly what you can do and to be honest it is hard to ask for help.

Bottom line for teaching time…If you ask what you can do or ask us to make a decision and we say nothing or tell you we don’t need anything call B.S. on us. Cause we all know if there was ever a time we needed help from our family and friends it is now. Right now it may be just to sit and love on us but as we move forward it may be other things like making sure we feed the dog!

Love to you all.

The She

P.S. For those that know me, can you just imagine the email I am going to send back to this travel agent. 🙂